Campus Love

According to http://media.www.dailyorange.com/media/storage/paper522/news/2009/02/12/Feature/Love-Lockdown.Three.Main.Unconventional.Issues.Destroy.Relationships-3626799.shtml ,“College relationships come and go - you never know who you’ll meet at a party, in your next class or even walking around campus. Once a relationship starts, it’s important to avoid the classic mistakes that can tear people apart. Things like cheating, clinginess or neglect are a given, but research shows that several patterns of behavior you might think are harmless could doom your relationship from the get-go.”

In college, the women (freshmen) and men (freshmen) come with a different purpose. Not in the sense of attending school, in the sense of relationships. The girls are looking for popularity, true friendships and then true love, in that order. While the boys are not looking. They are in footlocker looking at thousands of Jordan’s that will match with his entire wardrobe, but has no idea which one he can afford and how many he can wear at one time. Just because he has no idea, does not mean he will not try  them all to find the answer. 

The girls are dumb. Yes, I said it, we act dumb. We do not understand that females mature faster than males, and that our priorities are on a different level than the males. Because we act as though we are not seeing this, our men cheat due to our clinginess. Now neglect will come from the chicks who have hit the popularity chart faster than Lebron James. See now in this scenario, the female is in the wrong. I randomly see a guy in this situation, they are more prone to the cheating title. Trust me, I am not saying men are not clingy, I am talking to the girls right now. I believe that girls are very clingy in college relationships because they feel that they have to make sure every girl on campus knows that this is their man. She feels that if any second goes without her knowing where he is, he is cheating or some girls are making him vulnerable to cheat. Go figure! Again, I am not saying dudes are exempt from this. I have seen girls that have boyfriends who are so insecure that they feel calling or texting every so often will fill their hole of emptiness and not knowing where their significant other is. So you think that he is soft; not even! The reason he acts like this is because he has suffered from a case of neglect. He’s had a girlfriend in the past that neglected his every want and need and the reason that prior issue stuck with him was because he either loved her or had very strong feelings for her which was built up on a long term relationship. See how all of this is tying together? 

Cheating is a sucker move. Cheating in the dictionary states the meaning as “to deceive; influence by fraud”; in other words lying. I believe cheating is done to fulfill something missing in their own relationship. Why go out and cheat when you can just communicate and bring up these concerns to you boy/girlfriend. Why,you ask? Cheating is the easy way it, it can be worse than drugs. In some cases, people get it in their mind that they can’t be with one person for the rest of their lives, not realizing that ADAM & EVE were created not Adam, Eve, & Bosheeka or Eve, Adam, & Javonte.

Now clinginess; this is the death of relationships. Clinginess is worst than cheating and neglect because it is a main cause of the two. Clinginess is defined as “apt to cling; adhesive or tenacious: a clingy fabric”. Lol fabric though? If someone is being clingy, that means they are as close as my drawls on my behind, thats nasty. Okay so if I were to use this in a sentence I would say; Dwayne Wade filed for a divorce, and is not dating Gabrielle Union because of his wife’s clinginess. That had a banging ring to it! This can lead to insecurity, (which I will touch bases with another day) but is not a good look in a relationship. A lot of males in college would run from a female who acts as though she is a stalker, while girls eat it up and love the attention. Give your insignificant other some space. Do not call them every second or even text them all day. Time is good, especially time apart; if you are together all the time, there is not time to think about one another or miss each other. Stop suffocating each other, no matter how many songs J.Holiday make about it!

Neglect is a bad mother…….shut your mouth. Neglect’s definition says “to pay no attention or too little attention to; disregard or slight”. Remember in “The Preachers Wife”, Whitney wasn’t getting much attention from her husband. Well Mr. Washington rolls up looking like a good piece of attention, to Whitney, and she starts leading to the path of cheating. This then causes her husband to be very clingy. Why is this? Hmmm; well he was neglecting his wife so he thought she was cheating, and in order for him to be back in business he had to become clingy to know her every move. Makes you think doesn’t it!! ^_^