What You Should Talk About in Marriage

If you haven’t discussed the following topics before you got married then you should do so soon. You want to make sure that there are certain things you both understand, if you want to have a long and happy marriage.


Sex
Most couples, even close couples, don’t like talking about sex. But sex can get you in to all sorts of trouble. You should confront and discuss different aspects of sex, such as how much and how often. You should also establish a way to gently communicate when one of you just isn’t up for sex, and how each of your will react. Some couples respect the other’s need to pass for now, while others establish a code of never refusing sex from their spouse.


Babies
Are you both on the same page with babies and parenting? Needs and desires can change, of course, but do you know how many, if any, children that your spouse would like to have? Are you both clear on how you will parent? Are there any goals that you would like to achieve before having children?


Parents
Opposite of babies are parents. Talk about your parents and what your relationship is to your own parents. How will you handle in-law interference? Do you want to be one big happy family or have some distance from your parents? Are there any issues that you may have with your relationships with your parents that might affect your marriage?


Roles
Getting stuff done around the house can be a sticking point for couples. What are your “messy” tolerances? Who will take on which tasks in the household? Which tasks should be shared? What happens if one person feels as if the other isn’t pulling a full share? How will you work it all out?


These are some basic discussions. Religion and money might be two other topics that require a lot more discussion, after you get your feet wet on the above questions. Would you like to see more about discussing religion or money? Just leave me a comment.